I have written about the 80/20 rule in the past and today I had a revelation about a relationship in was in past few years. Matter of fact he was the reason why I started this blog many years ago.

 “80/20 rule for relationships is the theory which says, in a fairly healthy relationship, you only get 80 percent of what you want… The other part of the equation says that it’s the endless search for that missing 20 percent you’d hoped for in your mate that leads people to cheat…” – The REAL Deal on the 80/20 Rule for Relationships

For him I was that 20…  I mean the times we saw each other where short yet fun.  He had the carefree side because the gaps in between the visits we had were so long that by the time we saw each other there wasn’t time for common relationship stuff.  There was just time to enjoy the moments.  No responsibilities per se…  I was the woman who would, unknowingly, be satisfying that 20%…  While he probably would dispute me on this, tooth and nail, I now realize exactly where I stood.  I know now why that relationship really never grew wings and took flight.  At the end of the day he needed that 80 and just wanted this 20…  Being able to recognize that now is a breakthrough for me.

I am almost able to recognize the signs of being a 20 to a man now.  I know what questions to ask… I recognize the moves or lack of moves they make when they are not giving up that 80…

Just another day of random thoughts.

Peace and Blessings