Here is my random chatter and thoughts about an encounter I had with a married man, who was my friend, and his wife. Leave comments below if you desire:
As a married man, I just wanted to comment from 2 different perspectives since I can relate to these dudes. The 1st perspective is from the natural standpoint of a married man. From boyhood, I and most of the guys with whom I grew up were taught, by other boys, that the only thing better than sex with a female is sex with a new female. So that answer the question why men lie. It’s to have sex and new sex. We may say one thing but in the end it’s about the new sex. It’s an insatiable lust that cannot be put out by human effort. Just ask some of the great men of the old testament like David and Soloman who had multiple wives and still weren’t satified. Which leads me to the 2nd perspective.
The spiritual side of the married man. I recognize this lust and realize it can only be conquered by believing in the sacrificial death and resurrection of Christ. And by believing and receiving this love He has for me, it makes it easier to give to this unconditional love to my wife. I haven’t been married for almost 16 years because I’ve been good, but because of God’s goodness and grace for me, that allows me to claim Christ death and resurrection as my own and actually live obedient, not to my vows, but to Him, who helps me with my vows. I have had almost all my friends get divorced and they were nowhere near as bad as me. They would say things like, I never did this and that, bragging on their own goodness, but got divorced anyway and turn around and ask me how I stay married. I tell them it’s God’s grace and they think GRACE is just a cliché. What I mean is marriage is not about outward rules and regulations (legalism). That’s not love. It about a relationship that makes you want to love from the inside out because of the love that’s place on the inside by Christ Himself. The problem is when spiritual married men don’t pay attention to this love of Christ in them and start paying attention to what’s outside in the world and think that’s love. So much more to be said but I’ll end it here. I always pray this Christ-like unconditional love in a man will find you. I’m so glad you know he won’t already be married because if he can’t unconditionally love his wife like Christ love the church, he won’t be able to love you like you deserve.
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As a married man, I just wanted to comment from 2 different perspectives since I can relate to these dudes. The 1st perspective is from the natural standpoint of a married man. From boyhood, I and most of the guys with whom I grew up were taught, by other boys, that the only thing better than sex with a female is sex with a new female. So that answer the question why men lie. It’s to have sex and new sex. We may say one thing but in the end it’s about the new sex. It’s an insatiable lust that cannot be put out by human effort. Just ask some of the great men of the old testament like David and Soloman who had multiple wives and still weren’t satified. Which leads me to the 2nd perspective.
The spiritual side of the married man. I recognize this lust and realize it can only be conquered by believing in the sacrificial death and resurrection of Christ. And by believing and receiving this love He has for me, it makes it easier to give to this unconditional love to my wife. I haven’t been married for almost 16 years because I’ve been good, but because of God’s goodness and grace for me, that allows me to claim Christ death and resurrection as my own and actually live obedient, not to my vows, but to Him, who helps me with my vows. I have had almost all my friends get divorced and they were nowhere near as bad as me. They would say things like, I never did this and that, bragging on their own goodness, but got divorced anyway and turn around and ask me how I stay married. I tell them it’s God’s grace and they think GRACE is just a cliché. What I mean is marriage is not about outward rules and regulations (legalism). That’s not love. It about a relationship that makes you want to love from the inside out because of the love that’s place on the inside by Christ Himself. The problem is when spiritual married men don’t pay attention to this love of Christ in them and start paying attention to what’s outside in the world and think that’s love. So much more to be said but I’ll end it here. I always pray this Christ-like unconditional love in a man will find you. I’m so glad you know he won’t already be married because if he can’t unconditionally love his wife like Christ love the church, he won’t be able to love you like you deserve.