We all have our pet peeves for different things.

Here I am sharing my

TOP 5 DATING PET PEEVES.

Pet Peeve #1 – NO PLAN

I get frustrated when a man initiates interest in me and follows up with asking me out on a date but has no plan as far as the W’s are concerned.  When I say W’s I mean when, where, and what…  I have asked men I know why does this happen and they tend to say that they want to do whatever the woman wants to do.  I would imagine though that a man would get to know me enough through the initial conversations to gauge my likes and dislikes and possibly have some idea of what I may like to do on a date.  The typical conversation for me when I meet a man is him asking me what I like to do.  I am never shy about sharing what I like to do.  I am very specific on my likes and dislikes but open to try new things.  Have any of you experienced this with dating?  How do you feel about it?  How do you deal with it?  Is it a turn off?

Pet Peeve #2 – NO ENGAGEMENT

So we get to the point where we go out on a date or many dates…  We are sitting at a table or in a movie and all he is doing is looking down on his phone.  On social media and texting or even playing a game… (I had a man played domino’s on his phone in the movie)  I have to admit that I was guilty of this at one point but when I became aware of my own actions I made intentional changes when I went out on a date.  I started either leaving my phone in the car or in my purse and not in my hand.  This by far for me is annoying…  And pretty much the first and last time I would go out with that man.

Pet Peeve #3 – MISSPELLED WORDS 

I recently turned 39 and I value intellect.  I think that a man who is in my age range for courting should not be sending text messages with words like “date (that)” or “wut (what)”.  I think in general people are relaxing their grammar to much because of technology but if I have to do search the urban dictionary online to figure out what you are trying to say to me I am going to have to decline a date.

Pet Peeve #4 – TEXTING ONLY TO COMMUNICATE IMPORTANT TOPICS

Recently, I had a man who I had dated previously text me randomly to ask me if there was any change for us again.  I DIDN’T RESPOND.  In my opinion, he should have at minimum picked up the phone to have a live conversation with me for a topic like that.  How do I communicate effectively by responding with a text.  I am almost positive that he was hiding behind the text scared of possible rejection but still.  If you agree, give me some hearts (having a periscope moment).

Pet Peeve #5 – INFLATING THE TRUTH

The last and probably most annoying for me is someone who inflates the truth.  They inflate the truth about their job, their coins, their relationship status, this and that.  Basically they are liars.  If they lie to you in the beginning… DING DING DING they will continue to lie to you throughout whatever relationship you may have.  As women (cause I can only speak for the gender I am) we need to have some discernment when interacting with men.  Please don’t just fall for what is presented to you off the cuff.  You have to ask probing and follow-up questions.  Especially if your intuition kicks in on some shady stuff being said to you.

These are just MY TOP 5.  Do you have some to share?  Leave a comment below and tell me some of your pet peeves when dating…  If you like what I have posted share with the other single women who would appreciate this in your life.

Peace and Blessings…

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