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Believe in Yourself – Even Through Tough Times

Believe In Yourself

I am an advocate for people and I try to find ways to better their lives.  There are times when I even slip and loose sight in believing in myself. (Especially when everything around me seems to be crumbling into pieces) For me, my mindset will determine my level of success, or lack thereof when handling tough situations and times.  A positive mindset can empower you to abolish hurdles before they become to challenging.

What I do in tough times is keep the faith.  It is the only way in my life to trudge through the hard times and see myself clear to better days.  I also believe life successes are about strategy.

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Some of the following strategies have helped me remain steadfast when I am feeling the pressure of tough times.  I hope they can help you as well:

  • Reflect on the past.  Surely you’ve encountered seemingly insurmountable situations in the past.  How have yous succeeded in the most unpleasant scenarios?  Clearly, you ability to over come these situations speaks loudly for your strength and abilities.

In some situations, you may be able to emulate your past solutions by adapting them to fit your current situation.  Other times, you’ll be able to learn what not to do from past trials and tribulations.

The past needn’t dictate your future. It is possible to reflect without working up old, unresolved feelings,  This is a positive exercise.  If you begin to feel negative emotions, move onto another technique, which can help you increase self-confidence in your abilities.

  • Act immediately.  Rather than retreating into your personal cocoon when a situation becomes intimidating, address it immediately.  The longer you allow a situation to sit without attention, the more urgent it will become.  A perfect example is debt.

Avoid cornering yourself with urgency by creating a proactive plan now.  Or, better yet, have a just-in-case plan before the event ever happens.  It’s okay to take a few hours to create a plan of attack.  But, if you’re still brainstorming weeks from today, you may be stalling,

Realize, only YOU can be the source of a SOLUTION.  You are in charge of managing your life and ensuring its success.  Take pride in this power.  After all, you’re free – no one commands you!  Your life is what you make it.  And you can use your power to start off on the right foot each and every day.

  • Believe it.  You will make it through.  You’ve found your way out of a tough situation before.  You’ll do it now and again sometime in the future.  There is always a way to get your head above the water – always.  You’ll get better at it once you gain experience.

You have a fan base of supporters.  Your children, spouse, and extended family are cheering you on every day.  Chances are that no one doubts your abilities the way you do.  In fact, they have faith in your abilities the way you do.  In fact, they have faith in your abilities because you’ve proven your strength time and time again.

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As Bernice Johnson Reagon once said, “Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you; they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.”

Now is as good of a time as any to show yourself what you’re made of.  Confirm to yourself that your’e as strong and tenacious as you suspect yourself to be.

Everyone encounters hard times – it’s simply a part of life.  And a very major part of how you will address these hard times is dependent on your mindset and your ability to believe in yourself, even throughout the toughest of times.

Your mindset can be your best friend or your worst enemy.  If you allow your mindset to shift into negative territory, you’ll end up with negative results.  Remember, you attract the energy you exude!

Peace and Blessings,

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2 Comments

  • Mr. F8th WORKn BY Love

    We always seem to be on the same spiritual level. This was something I needed to read that was so on time. Thank you.

  • Maya D

    so very true. You snatched my edges when you said “it’s okay to take time to plan but if you’re still planning weeks/months later you may be stalling! Lol. Such a great read. Thanks for sharing. #blmgirl