The people who say this say that I should be looking for friendship and courting and other attributes of what I would think would encompass a relationship.
I get it… a date or two or three dates doesn’t constitute a relationship. There is a period of time that you develop friendship and you court and whatever else happens that eventually will or will not develop into something more like a relationship. The ultimate goal, in my mind, is to be in a relationship…. Right???
So when I say, I want a relationship with someone that is exactly what I mean…
But… if your desire is to not be in a relationship… Stop leading people on… Stop courting them under the pretense that a relationship will develop when those are not your intentions… If you just want sex or just a friendship then that is what you need to present to the other party when you meet them… The opportunity to make a choice to deal with you or not is not present to the other party and that is just not fair to me. Shoot even in a friendship you should be honest… Not only with the other person but also yourself.
This was in my heart after having a conversation with someone today and I had to inform them of my intentions with anyone trying to come into my life…
Peace and Blessing